The articles below are worth addressing as I haven't blogged about the human condition lately. For the most people, stress and confusion are on the increase and the average person is just coping.
Article 1 talks about women who won't date unemployed men. That may sound shallow but here's the thing ... though men complain about taking care of women - most adult women work in western society and do not want to get involved with a man who they have to take care of or can't take care of himself. We all know about the economic crisis and high unemployment rate, but in a world of people looking to avoid drama and just have some fun, the unemployed man calls to mind negative emotions and issues he is going through with an unsettled future. It just gets too heavy.
Women who support men who stay home and do nothing - wonder about how they spend their time - such as having an affair with another woman while they are hard at work. Men who don't work often fall under the heading of "crash and burn" from a former career and now want to reinvent themselves which means -- they could be looking for a female caretaker so they can play metaphysics or life coach, are suffering from depression, or remain in your life while they work on issues then dump you when they find themselves. At the end of the day - if you date an unemployed guy - he better be good in bed - not a substance abuser who needs to mellow out on weed every day - not want money from you to start up his own business - or waste your time waiting for him to find himself. Go with the guy who is balanced and can create a productive reality even in today's economy. They are out there.
Article 2 - One should never marry unless living with the person and getting to know all aspects of them including emotional problems, control issues, family dynamics, time needed to be alone, and so on. I totally disagree with that article. Of course married people stay together longer as most are stuck with money problems, etc. Divorce is never easy no matter what people say, so people just stay together especially in a bad economy. Don't jump into anything. If I was young and thinking about these things I would take my time, remember what life and love is really about, then proceed with caution and a knowing this is what I want not need at the moment.
The better you know the 2012 version of you - the easier it will be to create what you want. Ladies ... if the man doesn't come into your life as per human programming for a life partner - find peace within all that you do.
Good luck with these issues.
75 Percent of Women Say They Won't Date Unemployed Men Live Science - June 27, 2012
While losing your job may be a devastating blow to your career aspirations, it may be an even bigger blow to your personal life, according to new research conducted by a dating service. A significant majority of women said they would not date a man who was unemployed. Just one-third of men said they would date an unemployed woman. Overall, 75 percent of women said they would be unlikely to date an unemployed man, with 33 percent saying no outright. Another 42 percent of women answered maybe when asked about the possibility of dating an unemployed man. That answer, however, came with the stipulation that those women would not want to spend a lot of time in the relationship if the man did not have a plan in place. Just 21 percent of women said they would date an unemployed man.
Movin' In Causes Honey Problems Live Science - June 27, 2012
Quickly moving in with your honey may be the kiss of death for some couples. New research indicates that couples who move in together before they get engaged or married are less happy and less likely to stay together than couples who wait. The researchers contend that couples who eventually get married after living together are armed with a double dose of arguments - those from the early relationship (like jealousy) and from the marriage (household chores and bills) that eventually can tank the relationship.
