There is a difference between hearing and listening - just as there is a difference between reading and comprehension. Listening involves FOCUS.
Though most people at least attempt to multitask, much of what is said is not retained.
The brain hears what it needs to hear based on what it is processing at a given moment - emotionally, mentally and physically. This is the reason I record my readings for clients who come here and encourage others to do so at home. Generally you remember about 30% of what is said in a reading, those memories fading or becoming subject to influences in a client's life.
We are learning about the importance of balancing the chemistry of the brain each day which isn't easy in this crazy busy world of constant decision making - whether we chose to make change or it is thrust upon us.
How do we cope? We shut out the chatter of others by practicing techniques that balance brain chemistry - Yoga, Meditation, Visualization, and the like. Sometimes a soul simple requires peace and quiet to go within and process decisions without chatter from another. In selective hearing - they hear only their voice or that which guides from higher frequency, no matter what is going on around them in physical reality.
Has a partner ever said to you, "You don't listen! You never listen!"
Maybe you didn't listen because your thoughts were elsewhere or you simple didn't understand what was being said.
Relationships are not easy. This is where selective hearing really kicks in. There are the things we must address now and that which our partner wants us to hear and deal with simultaneously. This goes to feeling ignored, good old control issues, and tuning the other person out. It's why some of us realize we don't function well in a serious relationship as they have too many boundaries.
Do you wear headphones to tune your partner out?
Though they say we become more telepathic with our partners as time goes by, taking selective hearing to the next level, one has to listen physically and give a constructive opinion.
Best suggestion - sit down with your partner, discuss what is realistic and try to work things out. Don't keep secrets because if you do, the energy of the relationship will fade and end in these times where the universe seeks/creates balance in all things. Living with secrets is just as bad as hearing but not listening to truth.
You want what you want for your emotional well being as this is consciousness hologram in which you are projected illusion - a soul who came here to study the full gamut of emotions. Did you not HEAR me SAY and blog that over and over again? ... Nag ... nag ... nag!
We engage in selective hearing all the time. As you read this you are tuning out the noises around you. ... Listen to them now ... Again it goes to FOCUS. Consciousness at the physical level remains limited until we leave.
Why do some people lose their hearing partially or totally? They simply don't want to listen and react anymore.
Tune off - tune on - tune up ....
We hear what we want to hear.
It all goes back to the same old ... same old ...
DO YOU HEAR ME NOW?
Ellie asking Z ... who is listening ...
"How many more blogs will I write until this is over?"
Ellie listening to Z ...
"Not many more."
Z listening to Ellie ...
"I hear you ... over and out!"