Thursday, March 27, 2014


Many people will be planning vacations now. We've got spring break, summer vacation, and so many other things that get us up and going on a new adventure that may change our lives, perhaps forever.

We don't all vacation in the same way. Some people prefer to be on their own while others like to go with a partner or group. Some prefer to go somewhere they've never explored while others will return to the same place year after year. Are you a tourist or do you prefer to go somewhere, relax, and do nothing? I guess we will vacation in different agendas at different portals of our lives.

When you think about a vacation now where do you see yourself? Who are you with? How many days are you away? Do you like a romantic vacation? Do you have a friend you meet just for vacations? Do you make a business trip into a vacation as well? What is the best vacation you've ever taken?

The Call of the Wild Syndrome

The brain is a computer triggered by many things including seasons. It all goes to one's programming for experience.

Winter can bring on Seasonal Affective Disorder - also known as winter depression, winter blues, summer depression, summer blues, or seasonal depression. It is was considered a mood disorder in which people who have normal mental health throughout most of the year experience depressive symptoms in the winter or summer.

Along comes the Spring which triggers another set of symptoms in people who suffer from classic depression including insomnia, anxiety, irritability, decreased appetite, weight loss, social withdrawal, and decreased sex drive. I call their behavior The Call of the Wild Syndrome - a need for freedom that affects many people each year generally when the sun enters Taurus.

The Call of the Wild Syndrome manifests in different ways, most of which involve detachment from things that do not work or make the soul feel confined. It is an intense need for freedom, especially after the nesting months of the fall and winter. The soul needs to be outdoors, just as many animals of the wild. It is an impulsive behavior pattern, which seems to impact on the same people year after year as if instinctual.

This syndrome usually involves souls with issues of commitment, moods swings, and other emotional issues such as depression.

Spring, in general, signals to the soul that new adventures and relationship will happen if they make change - out with the old in with the new. Many people leave their current relationships, families, jobs, responsibilities, needing to be free in the "jungle of life" at least until the next nesting season (autumn) when they will repeat the pattern once again.

Conscious Uncoupling

This is the time of the year I blog about the end of relationships as Spring arrives and people want the freedom to find somebody new and exciting to catalyze their emotions and spiritual journey.

We have all seen the repercussions - hurt and pain - created by the split of relationships and the host of emotions created for all concerned. It is not easy to go through a divorce or any other separation.

In 2014, we are aware that people need counseling and support during a divorce. As society dictates that we do things in a "conscious way", along comes a new expression, Conscious Uncoupling, in reference to Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin's divorce.

Conscious Uncoupling makes it seem that everything they are doing is in love and light, in the best interests of all concerned, and all that metaphysical jargon. To me this is another one of those modern-day healing-your-issues expressions because as we all know that no divorce is simple no matter how metaphysical you make things sound. Luckily this couple will not have to battle over money and material possessions as most couples do. Chris will be in London while Gwyneth will live in the US raising the children though they'll be lots of together time. I think it's a simple matter of a couple who've grown apart. Each will have a new partner on the continent (content) in which they came here to live and experience. Good luck to all.

If you are going through a separation or divorce at this time, you will probably want to be civil and "conscious" about the way things unfold. If both adults are emotionally stable, things can move along amicably, but that is usually not the case. We generally find a relationship in which one of the partners triggers the worst emotionally in the other - both partners feeling that the other is emotionally unstable - never realizing that maybe they contributed to that behavior. Often one of the partners is hurt, disappointed, scorned, and has developed a pattern of abuse towards the other. The expectations each one brought to the other at the time of the union have failed, and everyone is angry. This will result in a bitter divorce where emotions may never be reconciled. Good luck with that.